Hmmm Wait a Moment

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About a year ago I said I’d do a guest post for SarahDanne over on Unexplored Boundaries – but I struggled to think of a topic, life got in the way and I never did it. Sarah came knocking like a year later to see what happened and as I didn’t want to let her down (again) I sat down to pen a post. It dropped at the start of May and here is the link

Being as it’s Mental Health Awareness Week and i’ve been overwhelmed with support and appreciation I felt it was a good time to share this myself.


This post is somewhat long overdue but I am here to share some wisdom.

This is dedicated to something I’ve learnt recently. Something that made me stop and go “Hmmm wait a moment”, something that has changed my outlook on life and on the way the world works.

This is regarding Mental Health.

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For the longest time, I have always thought to myself – Mentally I am strong, very strong. While I hear and see people complain and suffer from bouts of Mental Illnesses, I’d never given it much thought. For the regards of the person, the situation and the condition. Don’t get me wrong, I have always been a supportive person who would do anything for anyone – If I can help I will always strive to do so. But my grasp on the concept of Mental Illness was always lacking in knowledge and I would put an unsympathetic mindset down to that lack of knowledge.

This was until this year. 2019 set in and I stumbled across several things that in turn would help me better my understand, increase my compassion and also motivate me to help.

Image result for ant middleton quoteAs I’ve mentioned before in other posts I really got hit with the S.A.S: Who Dares Wins bug. The show grabbed me by the scruff of the neck, shook me about and threw me in the corner of the room to witness and watch life from a different perspective. This started my obsession with Ant Middleton, his motivational speaking and way of thinking which I took onboard as a lesson in growth and way to growth mental strength. Along with this new found respect and understanding, I also took a step back and truly looked at my Twitter, the people I follow, the people I support and the people who follow me.

It’s really struck a chord with me, the idea of Mental Health – especially for men and how it is poorly represented in society, in the media and in life. There is a stigma regarding it and even once upon a time, I would have used the term “Man Up” without truly thinking of the meaning or situation that the person I am saying it to is in. With the inspiration from Ant Middleton, Jason Fox, the S.A.S team and the amazing people on twitter that I follow I’ve come to realise that more should be done – it needs to be done. So I’ve decided to try and lay the foundations for something bigger, a movement or safe space as it were. For a way to give back, to help people, to give an outlet, support and the guidance that is needed – while striving to remove the stigma completely.

This is my next mission, my next chapter, my chance to do something rewarding, meaningful and helpful.

 

This is me.

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The News! An update of what I’ve been doing.

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So over the past few months I’ve dropped in content. The Man Vs Movies series dried up, I missed self set deadlines and I just couldn’t find time for the blog. I was worried about the how my lack of presence would affect the community. Not that I am a role model, but more would this be it, would I be forgotten for the newest trend. I know right, silly thoughts but they were there. So I clawed back as much time as I could and put out what I could when I could and just keep up with people. But I soon remembered the blogging community is one of the most supportive groups of people ever. I could vanish for six months, come back and still have an amazing group of people checking in on me.

The reason behind this was because I was spending my time filling out a shit tonne (I believe that is the correct unit of measurement) of paper work and having meetings for our latest adventure. This is the pinnacle of Adulthood life and just what this blog was built for.

Because we have just bought a house!

(Pause for applause)


On the 26th June at 5.30pm me and the GF went to view a house. A lovely 3 bed semi-detached in a nice area of town. Garden, Garage, Driveway. For the area, size and price, it was a steal. So we put an offer in and the following day it was accepted.

This is just the start of the journey, 4 months/16 weeks later (on the 26th) we have finished, exchanged, got the keys and began our next chapter.

Getting there was hard and at times mentally draining on me. As we were selling her flat to buy this we decided she would deal with the appropriate people for that, as it’s a Shared Ownership property (which I recommend people avoiding, as it was a nightmare to get out of and the hidden fees and ‘Oh to get that you need to pay this’ were for stupid reasons), while I was to deal with the Solicitor on everything else.

I don’t want to go into the boring, long-winded details. I have already bored and ranted at friends, family and co-workers on this for the past 4 months, I want to spare you that pain. All I will say is it’s a simple process that seems to attract useless people. There is no need for the process to take as long as it does and in turn cause as much stress as it does.

There were days I would say to my GF that I was genuinely worried about my Mental Health – and I like to think I am a strong character. But some of the people involved in this just set out to be ignorant and useless. But I am good now. I only ranted and snapped at the solicitors twice. Which is good going isn’t it.


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Now it’s all hands on deck. We have a lot of work ahead of us but it’s going to look amazing when we have finished.

It kind of means Christmas is on hold and going to be stupidly cheap. Because paint and curtains is a priority over presents sadly. But if anyone is wondering what to get us. Vouchers for The Range, Dunelm Mill and Next Home would be spot on.

It’s such a relief to have this completed, it ticks something of my 30 before 30 list – getting on the property ladder and it’s the next step in my relationship with the GF. Oh and it’s good to be able to let you all know finally, it was hard keeping it from twitter – I think secretly a handful of you knew but now I can share the love and tell you all properly.


Next step – Right from the off the GF stepped in with her interior decorator hat on and threw ideas, colour palettes and swatches at me. So we made a compromise. I am such an easy-going guy and usually like what she picks out, but I wanted 3 spaces that I can decorate, decide on and have control of – she can have the rest of the house, but I wanted the Garage, Garden and third bedroom (smallest of the three). The deal was struck and pow we have harmony.

So as you read this I am probably up to my eyeballs in paint, tools and old tiles. I have to rip the bathroom floor up pretty quickly and we have to get the whole house painted as the carpet man comes in a couple of days to lay the new carpet. So it’s literally all hands on deck. If you are wanting to give us a hand by all means popover, there will be pizza as a reward.

Keep your eyes peeled on Insta for those cool “Before/After” house shots and also if anyone has any decoration guides or quirky life hack builds I’d love to see them, any and all inspiration is needed.

I Can’t Believe I am a Homeowner! MWAH!

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