Hmmm Wait a Moment

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About a year ago I said I’d do a guest post for SarahDanne over on Unexplored Boundaries – but I struggled to think of a topic, life got in the way and I never did it. Sarah came knocking like a year later to see what happened and as I didn’t want to let her down (again) I sat down to pen a post. It dropped at the start of May and here is the link

Being as it’s Mental Health Awareness Week and i’ve been overwhelmed with support and appreciation I felt it was a good time to share this myself.


This post is somewhat long overdue but I am here to share some wisdom.

This is dedicated to something I’ve learnt recently. Something that made me stop and go “Hmmm wait a moment”, something that has changed my outlook on life and on the way the world works.

This is regarding Mental Health.

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For the longest time, I have always thought to myself – Mentally I am strong, very strong. While I hear and see people complain and suffer from bouts of Mental Illnesses, I’d never given it much thought. For the regards of the person, the situation and the condition. Don’t get me wrong, I have always been a supportive person who would do anything for anyone – If I can help I will always strive to do so. But my grasp on the concept of Mental Illness was always lacking in knowledge and I would put an unsympathetic mindset down to that lack of knowledge.

This was until this year. 2019 set in and I stumbled across several things that in turn would help me better my understand, increase my compassion and also motivate me to help.

Image result for ant middleton quoteAs I’ve mentioned before in other posts I really got hit with the S.A.S: Who Dares Wins bug. The show grabbed me by the scruff of the neck, shook me about and threw me in the corner of the room to witness and watch life from a different perspective. This started my obsession with Ant Middleton, his motivational speaking and way of thinking which I took onboard as a lesson in growth and way to growth mental strength. Along with this new found respect and understanding, I also took a step back and truly looked at my Twitter, the people I follow, the people I support and the people who follow me.

It’s really struck a chord with me, the idea of Mental Health – especially for men and how it is poorly represented in society, in the media and in life. There is a stigma regarding it and even once upon a time, I would have used the term “Man Up” without truly thinking of the meaning or situation that the person I am saying it to is in. With the inspiration from Ant Middleton, Jason Fox, the S.A.S team and the amazing people on twitter that I follow I’ve come to realise that more should be done – it needs to be done. So I’ve decided to try and lay the foundations for something bigger, a movement or safe space as it were. For a way to give back, to help people, to give an outlet, support and the guidance that is needed – while striving to remove the stigma completely.

This is my next mission, my next chapter, my chance to do something rewarding, meaningful and helpful.

 

This is me.

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Mental Health Movement

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I’ve been thinking about this for a while now. Working out a way to do something. To give a safe space for people who want to talk and want to open up. So without further ado please welcome, share and support. . .

“Pizza Ma Mind”


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Over the next few months I’ll be trialing several things like weekly Twitter Chats and support points. Just to get the word out and the name spread. If you can help, suggest anything or just point me in a direction. All and everything will be much appreciated.

 

 


 

What is Mental Health?

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The first step to accepting and understanding Mental Health is to know what it is. This is a journey and post we’ll learn together.

Simply put it’s the psychological and emotional well-being of a person.

This is what MIND say about MH:

In many ways, mental health is just like physical health: everybody has it and we need to take care of it.

Good mental health means being generally able to think, feel and react in the ways that you need and want to live your life. But if you go through a period of poor mental health you might find the ways you’re frequently thinking, feeling or reacting become difficult, or even impossible, to cope with. This can feel just as bad as a physical illness, or even worse.

Some of the statistics regarding MH as according to the Mental Health Organisation are as followed:

  • In England women are almost twice as likely to be diagnosed with anxiety disorders as men.
  • In 2017, 5,821 suicides were recorded in Great Britain. Of these, 75% were male and 25% were female.
  • Suicide is the most common cause of death for men aged 20-49 years in England and Wales.
  • 1 in 6.8 people are experience mental health problems in the workplace.
  • Evidence suggests that 12.7% of all sickness absence days in the UK can be attributed to mental health conditions.
  • 1 in 8 adults in the UK have experienced suicidal thoughts or feelings because of concerns about their body image.

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Learning these numbers was shocking. Especially the ones relating to Work Life. 1 in 6.8 people is the one that hit me. At work there is 7 of us in our team. Which means one of us is likely to experience something. But due to the stigma attached to MH, people do their best to hide it from the world. Which isn’t healthy at all. There is not shame in admitting you’ve lost a step or two.

I often think this about Work, but it could also be applied to Life I guess. “It’s such a easy thing, but it’s made complicated by people and their actions. If everyone was honest and easygoing there wouldn’t be a problem” If people weren’t afraid to open up, or if people were accepting of MH and didn’t look at it with disgust or horror the world would be a healthier, happier place.

The stats are horrific and as a society and race we need to make a change. We can’t have this level of suffering, this level of uncomfortableness. Change is needed. Remove the Stigma and live our best lives to our fullest potential.

 

 

 

Who is Mental Health?

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I follow a large number of bloggers and Mental Health Advocates who talk so strongly and openly about their own MH, MH as a whole and ways to raise awareness. With this in mind I wanted to showcase and share those people with you. I took to twitter to ask for help and for people’s posts to share. The response I got was MASSIVE and I am so thankful and appreciative of everyone wanting to get involved.

Everyone that has commented will get a mention in some form or another.


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  • Erica over on The Prepping Wife
  • Her Twitter Page is: The Prepping Wife
  • MH Post – Veteran Suicide
    • This post is a great look a MH in the Armed Forces, be it in the States, UK or anywhere I imagine it’s the same regardless. This post is insightful and eye opening as Erica details the little things the Vet has to deal with when returning that we take for granted and don’t think about. Also I never realised the Suicide number was this high. It’s such a shame these people give so much for their country and for peace, but are rewarded with mentally challenging situations.

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  • Helen over on Helen’s Journey
  • Her Twitter Page is: Helen’s Journey
  • MH Post – How to Give Yourself a Break. . . . .
    • This is a great pick me up, remember you are amazing, look after yourself style post. It’s a reminder and that is so important for everyone to hear. Even if you don’t think it, you are important and you need a dose of positivity every so often.

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  • Tiffany over on Love Always Tiffany
  • Her Twitter Page is: Love Always Tiff
  • MH Post – I Am More Than Sad
    • This post is short but sweet and to the point. Highlighting the difference between Sadness and Depression, and being ok with admitting the problem, seeking help and looking to get better. Tiff as always you are a gem!

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  • Hollie over on Life with my Trio
  • Her Twitter Page is: Hollie Cagney
  • MH Post – It’s Ok Not To Be Ok
    • Hollies post is one of the most relatable, real posts I’ve ever read. The idea of trying to portray a normal persona to save face but really on the inside being torn and broken. This reminds of me of the below line from Scrubs.


Honourable Mentions

As I said above I was overwhelmed by comments and people wanting to share stories, articles and posts in the name of MH. I’d have loved to have done the above for all of them but then this post would have gone on for days. So the ones I’ve missed but still deserve some recognition are as followed:

Sophie – TwitterBlog
Roberta – TwitterBook
Chloe – TwitterBlog
Joan – TwitterBlog
Nell – TwitterBlog
Jordyn – TwitterBlog
Marlena – TwitterBlog
Kat – TwitterBlog
Natasha – TwitterBlog
Nikki – TwitterBlog
Meditative Owl (Can’t find her name, sorry) – TwitterBlog
Koral – TwitterBlog
Stephen – TwitterBlog
Nykole – TwitterBlog
Jackie – TwitterBlog
Anneka – TwitterBlog
Maureen – TwitterBlog
Jade Marie – Twitter Blog
Catey – Twitter Blog
Sarah – Twitter Blog
Elizabeth – Twitter Blog
Christina – Twitter Blog

 

April Round-Up

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I’m a touch late with this post. Usually, I’m fully ahead of the game and ready to drop these round-ups at the end of the month. But last month really ran away with me and now I am frantically tapping out a post to share my life with you.


Lots happened in April.

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We had a much deserved Bank Holiday weekend and my god the weather was amazing. Four days out in the sun, loving life and enjoying the moment – forgetting work and the troubles of the world, just sipping on shandies and painting the fence. We spent two days doing the garden, putting lights up, planting seeds, moving bushes and painting EVERYTHING, only stopping to top up the ice cold shandy and have another Hot Cross Bun. Then on Easter Sunday, we went to Cromer in Norfolk to see the GF’s family who were there for the long weekend in the caravan. This was really nice, an excuse to crack the shorts and sunglasses. It was an amazing weekend that I just didn’t want to end. Life felt so good.


Edmond de BergeracBlog-wise I’ve been up to lots of fun things, I got a chance to go to the Royal and Derngate Theatre to review another play – this time it was Edmond de Bergerac, which can be found HERE. It was a real surprise and such a good show – I absolutely love going to the theatre to review these plays, I feel so cultured with my glass of wine and a pot of olives for the GF.

This month also saw my first paid opportunity blog post as I was asked to promote Panasonic’s new line of shavers and razors – that post can be found HERE. This was a big stepping stone for me and I was so overwhelmed and happy when that came in and I can’t wait to build on this.

I also smashed all my goals for interactions and likes across social media. Hitting targets on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.


There was also A LOT of wedding themed antics this month (not for me), I am a groomsman for my best friend in July so we had a suit fitting up in Nottingham followed by a few beers.

Then for another friend who is getting married in June, we threw a second Stag Do for him because a bunch of us from work couldn’t make it to his real one. This was a fun day of activities, drinking and laughing. We went to a place called Top Jump in Milton Keynes – a huge inflatable assault course that broke all of us in some way. Then a World Buffet Lunch, Mini Golf, Beers and Casino. Everyone was a bit busted up the next day for one reason or another but overall it was an awesome weekend.


Avengers Assemble!

Film-wise this month was obviously a big one for one reason which we will get to in a moment. Firstly let me mention Pet Sematary. The remake we didn’t ask for and didn’t need. I was not a fan at all and felt it was such a letdown. Then there was Hellboy which I reviewed HERE. This was a bit of fun, nothing serious, nothing special – just pure escapism which is needed at times.

Then there was the big boy – Avengers Endgame. We went to the Cineworld Double Bill – where we watched Infinity War and Endgame back to back which had a buzz and an electric atmosphere all night long. Now if you are in the slim minority that hasn’t seen it yet I urge you to go. My non-spoiler review should egg you on. It’s a masterpiece of huge epic proportion, 11 years in the making and it paid off so so well. I can’t wait to go watch it again.

 

 


The final big piece of news that you must have seen floating about.

I. GOT. A. DOG.

This is huge, I have wanted a dog for the longest time and I am so happy I’ve finally got one. He is still settling in and getting used to his new life but hopefully, he’ll feel right at home soon. I love the support and love you’ve all shown for him. He’s a cheeky little podge of a dog that means well, it’s clear he had neglect and lack of authority in his old house but he’s such a quick learner and I am sure in time he will truly be man’s best friend. Please welcome Buddy!

 

Avengers Endgame: Spoiler Free Review

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Hot off the press – Here is my Spoiler Free review of Avengers Endgame.

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Last night we saw the midnight showing of Avengers Endgame. It was a crazy experience where we all cheered when the certificate flashed up. The whole room shared this one magic moment and all sat in awe as we witnessed the culmination of 10 years of genius movie history unfold.

Obviously I will be giving very little away. No spoilers here. Which might mean the post is short. But I’ll try my best to tease and tempt you into wanting to see it even more.

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It’s an overall giant film. I’m still letting it sink in but the whole film is just massive and in fairness it had to be to match and smash Infinity War and round off this saga. It had everything you’d want and more. Highs, Lows, Comedy, Stunning Action Shots and just the overall jaw dropping awesomeness that comes hand in hand with an Avengers Movie.

It just begins, this is the fact of the matter, this is what we need to do, this is us doing it. It flows so well and answers all those unanswered questions that are stuck in your mind. An amazing effort as well goes to keeping the cast secret, I mean EVERYONE is in this somewhere, somehow. It’s so poetic and bitter sweet. Leaving you happy with the ending of our Heroes story, but also greedily and selfishly angry that this IS the End. Because let’s be honest we could watch these forever. But like a good book, fine wine or tasty box of doughnuts; everything must come to an end. It’s been an awesome ride but we all knew this day would come. The last doughnut is gone and the wine bottle is in the recycling and The Avengers (as we know them) is concluded.


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The only way I have been able to describe it to people asking today is by two words; “Unexpected” & “Huge” – I’m still trying to process and let it all settle in. But I can promise you this. You’ll laugh, You’ll tap your foot, You’ll be on the edge of of seat feeling every punch, You’ll cry and You’ll breathe a sigh of relief.

Do with that what you will.

So all that is left to do is: Book a ticket and Buckle in. This is the end of an era – this saga is nicely put to bed. This team, these films and this story will always be OUR Avengers – regardless of what the next ten years bring.

And for that, we thank you MCU.

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IPFooty Tips & The World of Betting.

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With the world of sport becoming more and more entertaining each week, the Football seasons are looking to be coming to a climactic end, the mighty Norwich are looking set on heading back to the big leagues, Liverpool are looking to clinch the top spot of the Premier League and England are two for two in the Euro’s Qualifying. But as we all know – in this game anything can happen.

image4Now I’m not much of a gambling man – but if and when I do have a little flutter on the football I follow IPFootyTips (IP) and of recent, they have been smashing it.

Starting back in 2015 with nothing but a head full of Football knowledge, a laptop and the drive to make something amazing happen, IP sat down and started InPlay Footy Tips. An online service that gives football tips and odds for the betting world. Within these first four years, IP has gone from strength to strength and now has three dedicated pages (which we will go into later), 25,000 twitter followers and a handful of staff manning the behind the scenes work. Proving what many of us wish for – with determination and dedication you can make your dreams come true.


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IPFootyTips has three active page – A Free Tips page and two V.I.P Pages (one for football and their newest one for Ice Hockey). Which works on a subscription basis, the free page is, well . . . it’s free obviously. This has daily tips that anyone can follow and then the V.I.P pages have subscriptions on offer which include; Monthly, Quarterly, Bi-Annually, Annually and Lifetime memberships. With these Subscriptions, you are given access to private Twitter groups, more tips and competitions.


How does it work? IP works in methods of ‘Units’ which was new to me when I first found them but once you know it, it makes perfect sense. A Unit is a value that you are comfortable with. So imagine I have £10 and look to make 10x £1 bets – a unit for me would be £1. Over the past three months alone their profit rate has been: +13 Units in January, +33 Units in February and +360 Units in March. Which means in March if your unit stake was £10 you would have seen a profit of £3,600. Which is a nice little win isn’t it.

IP’s strike rate is at 87% – which for a tipster is a ridiculously high success rate. But to get to this level IP has put a lot of time and research into ensuring his tips are accurate as possible and he prides himself on never posting a tip that he wouldn’t back himself. This research is a full-time job and it wants to be to offer betting tips 5 days a week across 3 twitter pages.

So why not check them out on their Website or Twitter Page and if you fancy, have a little flutter – who knows after this weekends football games you could have made a pretty penny.

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Now I wouldn’t be my supportive loveable self if I didn’t say this – Please remember Betting and Gambling should be recreational and fun. But in the hope to sound cliche – When the Fun stops, Stop!

If this post’s content has affected you in any way, please call the National Gambling Helpline: freephone 0808 8020 133 8 am to midnight, 7 days a week. Or if you don’t think you can then drop me a message. Help is always there. You just need to want it.

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