SUNSHINE BLOGGER AWARD

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So today feels like a day of awards. I had not long posted The Neat Blogger Award found HERE. When the ever so delightful Abbie tagged me in this.

Now I am not one to let my loyal lovely followers and fans down. So here we are again. Typing up another award (I love it, these are the best). You might have noticed the timeline doesn’t match up. That award was on Tuesday and it is now . . . not Tuesday (unconfirmed what day I will be posting). That is because I didn’t want to Saturate the market as it were. Keeping you all guessing, wanting more.

Shall we begin.

It was a lousy afternoon at work, the skies were grey and the air warm and humid. Suddenly a notification flew into my Twitter box. I had been mentioned in a Tweet by @WhatAbbieSays – Thank you for that lovely! Here is here Award if you want to find out more about here. Hit HERE now!

If you do not follow her then we need words, sit down, gather round and let me tell you about our heroine Abbie. Who can be found over on “What Abbie Says” she is such an; awesome, sassy, caring, amazing, lovely girl who supports everyone, doesn’t sugar coat it and then enjoys a cheeky Gin and Tonic when the day is done. I can’t remember how we met, but it can’t have been too long ago as I’ve only been here less than a year. But it feels like I have known her for years. I am going to move on now in worry that this starts to shape up into a soppy love letter or estranged fan mail letter.

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The Rules!

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and link back to their blog;
  • Answer the 11 questions the blogger asked you;
  • Nominate 11 bloggers to receive this award and ask them 11 new questions; and
  • List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post and/or on your blog site.

The Questions

Why did you start your blog?

This started with the idea of being a Parenting Blog, from the fathers point of view – as I feel the ratio of Mothers to Fathers blogs is in favour of the ladies. But as I have no actual child or the idea of having one yet, I decided to set up a blog about Adulthood and me growing up becoming old and dealing with crap. Then by the time the children come along this blog with be up and running.

Pineapple on a pizza? Yay or nay?

Ooh controversial question – probably not going to like my answer. But damn son I love the Pineapple, on pizza, on chicken burgers, on gammon. It’s sweet, sour, juicy – what is not to love. Keep the pineapple going strong.

If you could turn any activity into an Olympic sport, what would you have a good chance at winning medal for?

This will sound soppy as SIN but I have always been told it, for like years, I give THE best hugs. Bring it on I would take home the gold.

What would you have for your dream three course dinner?

Now this might change but right now; Halloumi Fries with Chilli Jam, a beast of a Sirloin Steak (Rare) and to finish, a plain and simply tasty Vanilla Cheesecake. Not too shabby hey.

If you had unlimited funds to build a house that you would live in for the rest of your life, what would the finished house be like?

Now I am not greedy, I don’t need mansions or helipads. But you know the America Family Homes you see in films, where the Mom and Pop have the kids and grand kids over for Christmas dinner. The large open plan kitchen, dinning room, maybe two living rooms. Upstairs maybe four double bedrooms, a study, walk in wardrobes. The large bathroom with two sinks as the master bathroom. Double garage, large garden, decking area with outdoor furniture and a big BBQ grill.

Maybe it is sounding borderline mansion like, but I just want to be able to always host and have people stay. Y’all can come visit!

Are you usually early or late?

Early. It’s a big pet peeve being late. Sadly my GF has terrible time management and it drives me up the wall.

What would be your ideal way to spend the weekend?

Friday Night. Takeaway Pizza – Couple of Movies.

Saturday. Lounge, maybe a spot of shopping (in my favour though, none of this being dragged round Primark and Next for hours upon end, no sir), some Playstation. Then to a bar for a few drinks with some friends.

Sunday. A lay in, bacon and egg sandwich, then chilling with some binge TV or films. Just some chilled time.

What is something you think everyone should do at least once in their lives?

Make a list of 30 Before 30. It’s eye-opening, challenge yourself.

How different was your life one year ago?

The blog, less than a year old. It’s been a whirlwind and I love it. It has given me a place to express myself and meet some awesome people.

What is something that your friends would consider “so you”?

Hmm; I’d love to say my charm or comical genius. But it would probably be my film knowledge and intelligence – wow that sounded arrogant. But yeah film knowledge and actors is off the chain – Ross would know this, or Ross could tell you that.

I hope that’s the right answer, now I think about it is that “So Me”

If someone narrated your life, who would you want to be the narrator?

I would have to go with someone like Michael Caine or James Earl Jones – though I don’t think my life is exciting for his booming voice. Maybe Brian Blessed.


My Questions For You.

  • If you could see any Band or Musician that has sadly passed away who would you see?
  • What are your thoughts on Avocados?
  • What is your biggest pet peeve?
  • Would you rather have no hands or no feet?
  • We are going to form a band, what position would take?
  • What is the most influential quote you have in memory?
  • Which is scarier, Space or the Depths of the Ocean, and why?
  • What are your thoughts on the scandalous “Reality” TV shows, such as MADE IN blah blah or Real Housewives of who knows-where?
  • Morecambe and Wise or Two Ronnie’s?
  • If you could hang out with any Kids TV Character from your childhood who would it be?
  • What Animal would you be most excited to see at the Zoo?

Nominations.

This is the bit I dislike because it takes ages for me to decide who to tag (I want to tag you all) and then I have to find your info and remember to tag you in the tweet. But let’s go!

  1. Joanne over at Winging Mama-Hood
  2. Erika over at Mz Imperfect
  3. Laura over at Merkitty
  4. Sara over on Insta – I guess you’ll have to impressive the answers but I am psyched to see how you do it. SingleSara7
  5. Gareth over on 16BitDad
  6. Anne on Forever The Wanderer
  7. Holly over on Honestly Holly
  8. Katy & her travel tips on Katy’s Travel Hints and Tips
  9. Shannon over at Shannon Diana
  10. The Average Bloke (For some reason I don’t know your name, but none the less awesome blog) over on Average Bloke Blogger
  11. Stephie over on Stephie Chapman

 

All are amazing bloggers, friendly people and supportive guys and gals. You should check them all out, follow each other and spread the love.

Peace guys!

 

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Avengers Infinity War – Non Spoiler review.

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Wow!

Last night I watched The Avengers Infinity War and what can I say!

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So this post is spoiler free as I don’t want to ruin the experience for anyone, so stick with me here as I attempt to tiptoe around the story trying to give as much information as I can while also trying to not give you anything at the same time – and just like Hulks punch it is proving hard going.

I am lost for words. On first reflection it was slower than the first Avengers. I love the first one because it runs so smooth but I felt this one changed speed a few times. Which isn’t a bad thing because let’s be honest they have a lot going on. But it builds nicely and just works on an impressive scale.

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What can I say without saying anything. Thanos is a brilliant bad guy – the reasoning behind his motives is somewhat logical in a mad kind of way and even the character development for him was stunning. They have managed to create the character so well that you feel as much emotion for him as you do the others. The emotions might not be the same but they are there non the less.

The teams were brilliant. Bringing everyone together worked so well. The bolshie arrogance of Stark mixed with the comical humor of Star Lord was genius. Spider-Man was a great inclusion throwing his young spirited naivety, yet willing to prove himself into the mix worked just as well as it did in Civil War and they also pair other great unlikely characters up which was something we never knew we needed but now just want to see again – *Cough* Thor and Rocket *Cough*

I was left with a few niggles here and there but I’m going to let it set in for a few days and then come back to it and see how I feel about them. That I think is standard with big films like this and alot of people I have spoken to have said similar things, but that in no way takes anything away from the overall amazing specticle I witnessed.

The ending left me somewhat in two minds. I want one result but think it’s more likely the other thought is more realistic. But that doesn’t change the magnitude of the film and what it means for the overall MCU world – we have seen this universe build and grow for ten years and this film is such a pay off that it’s everything we have wanted and more.

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Today the office is a bubbling pot of excitement as everyone is talking about the film, the theories, the trauma. It’s going to be one of those films that will be talked about and dissected for years to come. Leaving questions like – What have I witnessed? Where do we go next? How will we come back from this? To the point where someone has made a google sheet to label questions and thoughts so we can all throw opinions and answers into the mix.

Overall all I can say is the hype and build up did it justice – it’s doesn’t let you down and is a MUST see. If you enjoy the Marvel films even a little bit you will love this one. It’s a long film but from the very start you are thrown into this world and left shocked that the time has vanished. You won’t want it to end and could sit through it all again. I am already planning my second viewing as I think a few watches are needed just to help digest the sheer awesomeness of this masterpiece.

Mentally prepare yourself – it’s a thrill ride and I promise you will love it!

 

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Lost in Life.

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I’m not sure where this post is going or what its even called.

(I assume the title above is fitting. But as I write this I have nothing planned)

Over the past day or so ive realised something about my self and my personality. Which is always dangerous to self criticise and evaluate yourself but I went there – and what I found made sense. It made me think about every past exploit and choice I’ve made.

My findings – I have no drive.

Wait what does that even mean. Now you are wondering. Where does he park his car? Or not. Sorry for the dad joke.

I mean Drive / Dedication / Motivation. So many times I have had an idea. Something new to look into. Usually job related. I do research and plans and then never go anywhere with it because I never follow it through.

The biggest one in my past is film making. I love it so much. I wanted to set up a production company and go freelance. All planned. Named. Cards printed. But just getting that umph to start it never appeared. Another example was setting up an etsy shop to sell Groomsmen gift boxes. Working out the costs and the realistic demand for it. But again after all that work put in – I did nothing with it.

Same again when it comes to writing scripts and even a children’s story book. I begin full of life and positivity and then let it fizzle out when it comes to commitment.

I think it boils down to a fear of the unknown. Leaving my stable reliable old job to take that plunge and go it alone. Risk that stability and just go for it. Scary right.

My latest idea in the planning stages (which will remain a secret for the moment) is a similar thing. I don’t think it will take off or amount to anything.

I’m lost. Left wondering the world unsure as to what I want to do when I grow up. Does anyone else get this? A sense of being lost and unsure.

I think of recently the only thing I have kept going is this blog and I’m still in the baby steps of this. Ideally I would love to get to a point where I can make this self-sufficient and make this my work and job.

One day hey.

Sorry for the rant / over sharing. But you know what they say. I’ll work it all out one day and it will be good.

Until then. Lets just smile and get on with it.

Peace ✌

Dealing with Time.

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TimeSomething I have noticed as I have gotten older and become a “Responsible Member of Society” is that I have no time for anything and this is something I really struggle with; managing my time and finding a harmonious level where everything can work as one.

When I was younger, I would go to work, come home and do what I like – spend hours playing Playstation or going out. But now days in this adult life that luxury is long gone.

I get home now after working 7.30am – 5pm (five days a week) to a list of chores, taking the washing down and putting it away, putting a new load on, cleaning up from the night before and occasionally running the hoover round the flat before taking the bins out and then finally sitting down. But by that time I need to look at cooking some tea – so I go off and do that. Once more getting a chance to sit down eat and catch up with the GF.

The standard generic “How was your day?” and “Oh what happened with blah blah” conversations pop up and then before we know it’s getting time to think about having a shower and going to bed.

Where does the time go?

It is the same for me at the weekend, by the time the boring adult life stuff is done I am left tired and out of time to start something I want to do.

Obviously this isn’t always the case and some nights or weekends I have less “Chores” to do but still after working the 9 half hours I spend at work I am just so tired, like actually exhausted. So there are nights and times (like tonight. . . shhh don’t tell the GF) that I have a few couple of hours where I plan to cook a pizza, blog and play Playstation.

When it comes to time management for out of work activities – mainly blogging and media work, I just struggle so much to find the drive. My office job is so long that it makes coming home feel amazing but then I only have a couple of hours before I have to go to sleep or I know I will be ruined the next morning trying to wake up at the crack of dawn.

In a perfect world I would love to not have the office job. To be a self employed media mogul – if that was the case I 100% know I would schedule my time so much better. I would get up at a good time, unlike the ungodly hour I currently have to claw my way out of bed. Have a nice healthy breakfast, probably start going back to the gym for an hour or so, then home to do some writing, marketing and boosting of this lovely blog. Lunch, a few odd chores, then back to “WORK” – promoting media work, looking for clients and maybe the occasion Youtube video of a cat wearing a top hat – or something trivial. But you know what I mean – I am constricted to this lifestyle I have, trying to fit everything around the huge chunk of time I spend at the office a week.

I guess if I can get over this hump and once things pick up and start looking up maybe I can get to that goal one day – I don’t see it coming for some time as you know bills have to be paid. But like Journey said – Don’t Stop Believing.

WOW was that a little bit cheesy, oops. Sorry!

If anyone has any tips or tricks on how to help me with my time management I would love to hear from you, to try a new routine and work on something, anything, to improve and spread my capabilities across all platforms.

This is part the reason why I LOVE the idea of being a stay at home dad – I know that sounds crazy, trading a 9 1/2 hour day at work for a lifetime commitment of a child. But I think I would be able to handle that a lot better than I do currently. You know – Feed Baby, Take Baby for a walk, Blog while baby naps, feed GF and Baby – Sleep Repeat.

Yes I know that is WAY to simple an outlook on stay at homes parenting, I admire and fully respect what you do and will do the same when the time comes – but I can dream.

So until that day, or until I win the lottery, this is my life. I have to make of it what I can.

Wish me luck!

 

 

 

 

 

My Name, Your Name, Who’s Name?

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In the modern world we live in getting married or taking other people’s names is becoming more complex and different.

Traditionally it would have been the wife who takes the husband’s surname as they join into his family. But as time has moved forward there are more cases now days where either; No name change is taken, the wife’s name is taken, a double barrel name appears, a hybrid of both names comes out or the even newer approach happens – a whole new name is produced.

The reason this post came about is that a few of us got chatting about it at work. Who would take whose name. It’s also a conversation me and the GF have quite a lot. So I just wanted to know what everyone thought about this subject – I took it to twitter and got some very interesting points back.

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Overall everyone said as long as the marriage works than it doesn’t matter what the surname is. Which lead into the topic of regardless of surname it’s the children involved that matter most.

Which made me think about the flip side of this topic. When families break down and it becomes a mixing pot of surnames all under one banner – as long as everyone involved is happy and wanting to be there it shouldn’t matter what you are called.


But more about taking which name, I think in this modern age that the traditional sense of taking the Husbands name because he was the patriarch and the head of the family is long gone. What with equal rights and even the legalisation of homosexual marriages coming into an effect the rules of the game has changed.

I know people who got married but still have their original family names because they are both lawyers and I understand that. They have made a name for themselves as this person and to take another name could lose worth in their career as their identity has changed.

Sadly though I have seen equality turn people into stubborn unreasonable people, I know a person who flat-out hands down will not consider or entertain the fact of changing their name. Which as much as I believe if you don’t want to that is ok, I think you have to be open enough to have a conversation about it, rather than stubbornly not respecting the partner enough to even have a conversation.


I took my husband’s name. I don’t know, personally my own surname wasn’t that important to me. It’s a name lol. I wanted to have to same name as my husband, it feels like a symbol of unity I guess. – @SimplyySplendid (Twitter)


Personally I wouldn’t want to take my GF’s surname. Not because I am not open to the option. But because I think mine is better. Which sounds arrogant I know. But this is also why I like the idea of merging names or even creating a whole new name all together. To make something more personal and fair – but on the flip side of that I also think I should keep my name as I am the last and only Male in my family and if I want that name to continue I need to be the one to carry it on.


Personally I’d take my future husbands surname bc I’m a bit of a traditionalist when it comes to it, but I don’t think it really matters. – @AllLadyA (Twitter)


It was pointed out to me that something else to be taken into consideration is all the paperwork you will have to change and update – Passport, Driving Licence, Bills, Work Profile. It’s a costly and time-consuming task regardless of which name you end up with and that I can see as a reason not to change the name.

It wouldn’t be impossible to get a hyphenated name now, but it’s a bit of a chore changing it with everything. And also now I’ve since had a child, I wouldn’t like not having the same name as him… – @Jakijellz (Twitter)

Overall there is not a right or wrong answer to this situation we will ultimately put ourselves into and from the feedback and responses I have received about this topic the answers are different but overall the main thing that shines through is people’s love for their family and children – it doesn’t matter who has what name, it’s the idea of the happy family that wins.

I also want to thank everyone for the feedback and responses I received while writing this.

Once again you guys are awesome and as for me – I think it’s something me and GF will have to discuss nearer the time . . . which isn’t anytime soon (just so we are all clear)

Peace!

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Understanding Stroke.

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This is the post I have wanted to write for years but never found the power to do so.

Back in September 2013 my Nan (My Dad’s Mother) passed away from a sudden Stroke. It’s always been a bit hard to talk about, even when she comes up in conversation now days it still chokes me up inside. Let me start by saying I undoubtedly loved my Nan, she was such a happy, inspirational woman who would help anyone and she meant the world to me. In the summer of 2012 I lived with her while training for a new job as location made it the best option to do so. I think that time helped cement our relationship in so many ways.

The reason it’s hard for me to process and why this post is 5 years in the making is because I was the one who raised the alarm, the one who witnessed her have a Stroke right in front of me.

I walked into the block of flats and was told she’d just been take out for a belated Birthday meal by a group from the block and she might be having an afternoon nap. I walked into her flat and she was awake and watching T.V. – she stood up, said hello, gave me a hug and a kiss and then sat back down again. That was the moment it struck.

It was the most bizarre thing. She was fine, her loveable self but as soon as she sat down. She’d changed. The idea of a stroke went through my head but I didn’t want to accept it. I kept telling myself she was tired. She couldn’t speak and just looked at me lost – I thought give it a minute. She will snap out of it. I was asking her questions and trying to spark a conversation but with no luck. She patted me on the arm in a supportive reassuring way and I knew. I got up and rushed to find the block manager.

She lived in a retirement block where a manager overlooked everything and everyone. A place for the elderly who are still capable but looking to downsize. It’s a cute block with lovely people.

I find her having a cup of tea with the group that went out with my Nan. Which included her sister – my great-aunt. Struggling to string a sentence together I get the manager (Mary) to come check on my Nan. We rush back and she tries some response exercises to get a reaction from my Nan. I just sink back into the corner of the flat as Mary rushes off to call an Ambulance. She returns with the other block manager and my great-aunt who instantly goes into sister mode and tells her to stop being silly and to get up.

The paramedics get there, assess the situation and start to strap her into the chair to take her out. In that instant I learn so much about my Nan’s medical history that I never knew. To me she was always this strong amazing woman. Nothing could stop her. But to find out she has had falls and a small stroke before.

I didn’t know any of this. What is going? I’m now climbing into the wall. I really just want to wake up now.

We get to the hospital and the doctor has me sat in a little room explaining what is going on. Words like clot, brain damage and high blood pressure form a sentence but I’m still a wreck. He wants permission to start a procedure that will flush the clot on her brain, but there is a chance there has been too much bleeding and she will be left disabled. I remember thinking I can’t make that call. Of course I want them to save her and bring her back to the woman I knew but what about if things went wrong. I need my Dad or Aunt to decide. I can’t reach my dad and my aunt is at the airport about to fly out on holiday. I get her on the phone and just can’t string the words together.

The Doctor takes over and explains it all. She agrees to go ahead. But then it comes to light her blood pressure is too high to start and we have to wait.

Two days later on Friday 13th she passes away.


Losing a family member is hard, especially when its someone you care for so much but being the one to witness it is a whole new kettle of fish. Everyone kept saying just remember the good times, remember the last time you saw her – which worked for my sister and the family. But not so much for me.

The worst thing about it is I can’t ever talk to her again, introduce her to my GF, she’ll never meet my children or be there with a pot of tea as I walk in.


This is what hurts the most and so the Stroke Association has become a charity I support and follow with passion. I’d even love the chance to work for them to give anything I can back to them. I did a fundraiser for a Dry October a few years back and raised over £700 for the cause. I am also looking at doing the next fundraiser for the charity soon – but still deciding on what to do. As I feel as big as the charity is, it’s over looked with other causes and charitable organisations.

Here are the numbers and stats that you might not know about Stroke.

  • Stroke occurs approximately 152,000 times a year in the UK which is one every 3 minutes 27 seconds. 
  • Stroke kills TWICE as many women as breast cancer and more men than prostate and testicular cancer combined in a year. 
  • Stroke is one of the largest causes of disability – half of all stroke survivors have a disability. 
  • Stroke is the FOURTH single largest cause of death in the UK and SECOND in the world. 
  • For every cancer patient living in the UK, £241 is spent each year on medical research, compared with just £48 a year for stroke patient. 

Just let these sink in for a second. The second largest cause of death in the world is Stroke. Out of every horror in the world this is number two for deaths.

Stroke is a life threatening disease that is caused when blood flow to part of the brain is obstructed. There are two kinds of Stroke Ischemic and Hemorrhagic, the Ischemic is due to lack of blood and the Hemorrhagic is due to bleeding. Regardless of style they both lead to the same place and resulting in the brain not functioning as it should.

If this post does nothing else I hope it brings a small bit of education into your lives. It’s a horrific disease and it should be recognised more within society in my opinion. Help me raise awareness and bring these facts to light and to grow the support this charity has.

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All the facts I have used in this post come from the Stroke Association website (https://www.stroke.org.uk/). I have not been asked by the Stroke Association to write this or promote their work – this is a personal post looking to educate people of the seriousness of Stroke.