Me Too. The Blame Game.

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This post is going to be a bit of a zinger. I am fully prepared to lose followers, get some hate and even get slated for this. But it’s come up time and time again and every time I end up feeling the same way.

Abuse in Hollywood. ActorΒ alleged crimes. Rumours and Stories.

In the wake of yet another ever so talented actor being accused of sexual harassment I find myself finally writing this post.

Morgan Freeman can now join the ranks of Kevin Spacey. Jeremey Piven, Johnny Depp and Dustin Hoffman. Men who have all been accused of sexual misconduct.

Firstly I would like to air my stance on misconduct. Out right. Plain and simple it is WRONG. It happens both ways. Men assault Women. Women assault Men. Its black and white. No means No. If they don’t consent it’s against their will and that is a crime.


But I am also of the same mind-set as “Innocent until proven Guilty in a court of law” – until a jury of my peers and a judge says. Yes Guilty! Or No Innocent! Then I am not interested in the stories.

Sadly that is the horror of social media today. So many people have a voice or an opinion that someone else will read. Form another opinion on the matter and use their voice to share a new story that has changed so much so that the original content get lost or embellished.

Leaving the damage to set in and destroy lives and careers.

I use actors as the example because I am a big film fan. We mention Spacey and we should automatically think about his amazing performance in The Usual Suspects or even House of Cards. But we don’t. We think of the allegations. Morgan Freeman we should think God in Bruce Almighty or Red in Shawshank. Not any more. Hoffman as Totsie or Hook not as the sexual predator people are suggesting.

I hate how these situations ruin careers and the name they spent so long trying to make.

Don’t get me wrong if Spacey or any of these men are convicted by a judge due to overwhelming evidence then fair enough, the proof is there and I will be in agreement that they have done wrong, they have a talent but it has been overshadowed by these crimes. But until then in my eyes they are talented award-winning men. Not crooks.

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Also not to take anything away from the real victims because yes they have gone through horrific ordeals. But in situations like this how can you be absolutely 100% positive that every account, story and allegation is truthful. How can we be that certain. Yes 8 people said it. But does that mean it happened 8 times. Or did it happen 4 times and the other 4 jumped on board. It is one of those things that no one can doubt or question. But says a lot about the person who is (if any) making it up. That is a whole new level of monster.

It is also still a simple case of one person’s word against another’s. Just multiple times. It’s not 8 allegations vs 1 person. Which is the bit I think most people forget. They see the story of Freeman assaulting eight women. But we don’t know that for sure. We don’t know if any are true. Sadly people are greedy and hungry for fame. They want the Kardashian life of luxury and wealth at no cost. What’s an embellishment between friends. He looks the type so lets say he did it. This mentality is also as wrong as the crime itself. Toying and manipulating people’s lives for your own goals is wrong.

To summarise my post I just wish people would be more open-minded and allowing. Remember an allegation is just that. There is no evidence of truth until that allegation is investigated and judged by a court of law. At the moment there is one mention or whisper of something and the mob is out with their torches and pitchforks trying to run someone out-of-town like a 1940’s horror movie.

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These actors have families. How would you like it if all you heard was how Mummy abused so and so, and Daddy did this to them. Until its proven it’s just slander.

I know this might be hard to read and if anyone has been affected by this please feel free to contact me or the appropriate help line. I support everyone, I love everyone, I just wanted to take a moment to try to widen people’s perspective, to stay open-minded and stay fair. I know it’s a horrible situation but I just don’t think we can instantly brand someone a sexual predator until it is proven.

I also hope you can understand my point and don’t hate me too much.

Peace πŸ’ž

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Lost in Life.

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I’m not sure where this post is going or what its even called.

(I assume the title above is fitting. But as I write this I have nothing planned)

Over the past day or so ive realised something about my self and my personality. Which is always dangerous to self criticise and evaluate yourself but I went there – and what I found made sense. It made me think about every past exploit and choice I’ve made.

My findings – I have no drive.

Wait what does that even mean. Now you are wondering. Where does he park his car? Or not. Sorry for the dad joke.

I mean Drive / Dedication / Motivation. So many times I have had an idea. Something new to look into. Usually job related. I do research and plans and then never go anywhere with it because I never follow it through.

The biggest one in my past is film making. I love it so much. I wanted to set up a production company and go freelance. All planned. Named. Cards printed. But just getting that umph to start it never appeared. Another example was setting up an etsy shop to sell Groomsmen gift boxes. Working out the costs and the realistic demand for it. But again after all that work put in – I did nothing with it.

Same again when it comes to writing scripts and even a children’s story book. I begin full of life and positivity and then let it fizzle out when it comes to commitment.

I think it boils down to a fear of the unknown. Leaving my stable reliable old job to take that plunge and go it alone. Risk that stability and just go for it. Scary right.

My latest idea in the planning stages (which will remain a secret for the moment) is a similar thing. I don’t think it will take off or amount to anything.

I’m lost. Left wondering the world unsure as to what I want to do when I grow up. Does anyone else get this? A sense of being lost and unsure.

I think of recently the only thing I have kept going is this blog and I’m still in the baby steps of this. Ideally I would love to get to a point where I can make this self-sufficient and make this my work and job.

One day hey.

Sorry for the rant / over sharing. But you know what they say. I’ll work it all out one day and it will be good.

Until then. Lets just smile and get on with it.

Peace ✌