#PizzaMaMind

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Last night I hosted the first #PizzaMaMind twitter chat hour and it was amazing!

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The hour kicked off and I was worried there would be little interaction but the amazing world of Twitter proved me wrong and honestly that hour shot past. I was nonstop and I loved every minute of it. People started dropping in, saying hello and getting involved. There was a lot of people who showed up with the same mindset as myself – wanting to be able to offer a safe place to be open and talk about real things regarding Mental Health. That being said, I didn’t want to jump straight into the deep end and ask everyone to open up straight away. I wanted to create the environment, to give people a place of calm and fun. Just to be yourself. The MH talks will begin next time.

My GF said about the hour – “I was worried it was going to be a depressing hour but actually it sounds really positive and helpful. Sometimes it’s better to talk to a stranger through a screen than a real person”

And she is right. I’ve always thought this too – people are worried to open up to friends and family, but a supportive stranger on the internet rules out judgement. We don’t know each other, we can just vent and have people understand and be there for you.


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Merchandise was spoken about and frankly, that topic exploded. With Gemma taking charge and suggesting some AWESOME suggestions; Pizza Cutters, Plates, Blankets and Plush Toys that smell of Pizza. I’ve got my work cut out for me now, haven’t I?

T-Shirts were a popular pick, as well as hoodies, badges and mugs. Which is awesome.

We also asked for people to set challenges to strive towards for next time. This was a beautiful moment where one person would say something and everyone else came in for support.

This right here (over on the right) is why we are here. Why I wanted to do this. For the caring support of everyone.


I have a lot of work to do now to prepare for next weeks instalment but it’s so worth it. I’ve taken to Twitter this morning to ask for feedback and I’ve got some ideas floating around for little changes across the panel. Stay tuned for more.


 

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May Round-Up

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Month Five is done, dusted and over. Is it too early to mention Christmas? I thought about it the other day – in another five months we will be ready to start embracing the festivities. If it goes as quick as the first five months did we will be sipping hot chocolate and eating Christmas snacks in no time at all.

Ross calm down. Back to the point in hand.

The May Round-Up.


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Between the 13th & 19th May was Mental Health Awareness week, which I posted five posts – one a night during the working week to help do my bit for awareness. The links can be found here:

Mental Health Awareness Week
Who is Mental Health?
What is Mental Health?
Mental Health Movement
Hmmm Wait a Moment

I had so such an amazing reaction to all of this, so many supportive comments, shares and a whole lot of love. Which is instantly rewarding, I never really thought I’d get into Mental Health Blogging but this week has really shifted my mindset on the topic and (as mentioned in Mental Health Movement) now I am looking at setting up a support function. Can’t wait!

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What else is new?

Buddy is settling in, still having a moment every now and then but he is becoming a great member of the family. Though the GF did have a moment the other day where she was worried he was peeing on the floor. Every so often she’d notice a wet patch on the floor by her side of the sofa (yes like every great couple, we have sides of sofa), I dismissed this, saying he’s a good boy and at worst case the wet patch is probably where he has a big drink and then sits down with dribbly chops. We thought nothing more of it.

Queue the beloved drama and fruitful woe of the Bathroom situation as it creeps back into our lives – so that wet patch that had Dog Based Blame was discovered again the other day, the GF stood of the rug in the living room to discover again it was wet. As Buddy’s name was about to leave her mouth she noticed it. The water droplet from the ceiling onto her nose. . . . The Bathroom is leaking.

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I was so angry, so annoyed, after all the drama and hiccups beforehand – after all that money spent on repairing it. It’s still not fixed. I took the side of the bath off to find the whole underneath soaked. So as we speak there “Should” be a plumber at our house fixing the shoddy job he first did. What angers me the most it people that don’t do their jobs. If you can’t successfully plumb and refit a bathroom, don’t be a plumber, don’t claim you can do it. There are many things I can do in theory, after research and help, but I don’t do them because I’ve never done them. There is a reason I didn’t refit and plumb the bathroom.

It’s just frustrating as it currently stands it’s still not fixed and they have “Been out 3 times” now, but always try and turn it back into our problem and not theirs. So I’ve had enough of the cowboys. I’m calling in the professionals.


Also had the final suit fitting for my friend’s wedding, that date creeps closer and the excitement is brewing. It’s going to be such a fun day.

FilmWise I caught John Wick 3: Parabellum at the cinema. It was fun but in my opinion the weakest of the three. I felt they tried to put too much story into this one. The first two worked on a basic simplicity but this one felt like they tried to add too much. I am psyched they announced a 4th in the works and a spin-off for The Continental. Which I love because Ian McShane and that whole idea of this Hotel for Assassins really interests me.
Caught Aladdin the other night too – wasn’t fussed beforehand but it was ok you know. Nothing special, very child-friendly and massive sensory overload. But if that’s your thing it’s worth a watch – personally, I am not a fan of these Disney live-action remakes. Also in a rare moment, the GF and I sat down on Sunday night and watched Now You See Me. This is rare because getting her to watch a film can be tough but it was a really nice night. I’d seen it before and really rate it as a twist you don’t see coming and watching her try to guess was so much fun – she really did not see it coming.

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I started this post thinking, I didn’t think this month’s post would be that fleshy, but turns out I have a lot to say. My stats are looking good too – always on the climb and constantly beating last years months. Which isn’t tough I guess but every cloud.
Next months post will be even wilder – life is about to get MEGA busy. I’m talking one stag do, two weddings, three birthdays and a concert. Bet you can’t wait to hear who I am seeing. But that is all for next month.

 

Hmmm Wait a Moment

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About a year ago I said I’d do a guest post for SarahDanne over on Unexplored Boundaries – but I struggled to think of a topic, life got in the way and I never did it. Sarah came knocking like a year later to see what happened and as I didn’t want to let her down (again) I sat down to pen a post. It dropped at the start of May and here is the link

Being as it’s Mental Health Awareness Week and i’ve been overwhelmed with support and appreciation I felt it was a good time to share this myself.


This post is somewhat long overdue but I am here to share some wisdom.

This is dedicated to something I’ve learnt recently. Something that made me stop and go “Hmmm wait a moment”, something that has changed my outlook on life and on the way the world works.

This is regarding Mental Health.

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For the longest time, I have always thought to myself – Mentally I am strong, very strong. While I hear and see people complain and suffer from bouts of Mental Illnesses, I’d never given it much thought. For the regards of the person, the situation and the condition. Don’t get me wrong, I have always been a supportive person who would do anything for anyone – If I can help I will always strive to do so. But my grasp on the concept of Mental Illness was always lacking in knowledge and I would put an unsympathetic mindset down to that lack of knowledge.

This was until this year. 2019 set in and I stumbled across several things that in turn would help me better my understand, increase my compassion and also motivate me to help.

Image result for ant middleton quoteAs I’ve mentioned before in other posts I really got hit with the S.A.S: Who Dares Wins bug. The show grabbed me by the scruff of the neck, shook me about and threw me in the corner of the room to witness and watch life from a different perspective. This started my obsession with Ant Middleton, his motivational speaking and way of thinking which I took onboard as a lesson in growth and way to growth mental strength. Along with this new found respect and understanding, I also took a step back and truly looked at my Twitter, the people I follow, the people I support and the people who follow me.

It’s really struck a chord with me, the idea of Mental Health – especially for men and how it is poorly represented in society, in the media and in life. There is a stigma regarding it and even once upon a time, I would have used the term “Man Up” without truly thinking of the meaning or situation that the person I am saying it to is in. With the inspiration from Ant Middleton, Jason Fox, the S.A.S team and the amazing people on twitter that I follow I’ve come to realise that more should be done – it needs to be done. So I’ve decided to try and lay the foundations for something bigger, a movement or safe space as it were. For a way to give back, to help people, to give an outlet, support and the guidance that is needed – while striving to remove the stigma completely.

This is my next mission, my next chapter, my chance to do something rewarding, meaningful and helpful.

 

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Mental Health Movement

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I’ve been thinking about this for a while now. Working out a way to do something. To give a safe space for people who want to talk and want to open up. So without further ado please welcome, share and support. . .

“Pizza Ma Mind”


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Over the next few months I’ll be trialing several things like weekly Twitter Chats and support points. Just to get the word out and the name spread. If you can help, suggest anything or just point me in a direction. All and everything will be much appreciated.

 

 


 

What is Mental Health?

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The first step to accepting and understanding Mental Health is to know what it is. This is a journey and post we’ll learn together.

Simply put it’s the psychological and emotional well-being of a person.

This is what MIND say about MH:

In many ways, mental health is just like physical health: everybody has it and we need to take care of it.

Good mental health means being generally able to think, feel and react in the ways that you need and want to live your life. But if you go through a period of poor mental health you might find the ways you’re frequently thinking, feeling or reacting become difficult, or even impossible, to cope with. This can feel just as bad as a physical illness, or even worse.

Some of the statistics regarding MH as according to the Mental Health Organisation are as followed:

  • In England women are almost twice as likely to be diagnosed with anxiety disorders as men.
  • In 2017, 5,821 suicides were recorded in Great Britain. Of these, 75% were male and 25% were female.
  • Suicide is the most common cause of death for men aged 20-49 years in England and Wales.
  • 1 in 6.8 people are experience mental health problems in the workplace.
  • Evidence suggests that 12.7% of all sickness absence days in the UK can be attributed to mental health conditions.
  • 1 in 8 adults in the UK have experienced suicidal thoughts or feelings because of concerns about their body image.

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Learning these numbers was shocking. Especially the ones relating to Work Life. 1 in 6.8 people is the one that hit me. At work there is 7 of us in our team. Which means one of us is likely to experience something. But due to the stigma attached to MH, people do their best to hide it from the world. Which isn’t healthy at all. There is not shame in admitting you’ve lost a step or two.

I often think this about Work, but it could also be applied to Life I guess. “It’s such a easy thing, but it’s made complicated by people and their actions. If everyone was honest and easygoing there wouldn’t be a problem” If people weren’t afraid to open up, or if people were accepting of MH and didn’t look at it with disgust or horror the world would be a healthier, happier place.

The stats are horrific and as a society and race we need to make a change. We can’t have this level of suffering, this level of uncomfortableness. Change is needed. Remove the Stigma and live our best lives to our fullest potential.

 

 

 

Who is Mental Health?

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I follow a large number of bloggers and Mental Health Advocates who talk so strongly and openly about their own MH, MH as a whole and ways to raise awareness. With this in mind I wanted to showcase and share those people with you. I took to twitter to ask for help and for people’s posts to share. The response I got was MASSIVE and I am so thankful and appreciative of everyone wanting to get involved.

Everyone that has commented will get a mention in some form or another.


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PWVS

  • Erica over on The Prepping Wife
  • Her Twitter Page is: The Prepping Wife
  • MH Post – Veteran Suicide
    • This post is a great look a MH in the Armed Forces, be it in the States, UK or anywhere I imagine it’s the same regardless. This post is insightful and eye opening as Erica details the little things the Vet has to deal with when returning that we take for granted and don’t think about. Also I never realised the Suicide number was this high. It’s such a shame these people give so much for their country and for peace, but are rewarded with mentally challenging situations.

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  • Helen over on Helen’s Journey
  • Her Twitter Page is: Helen’s Journey
  • MH Post – How to Give Yourself a Break. . . . .
    • This is a great pick me up, remember you are amazing, look after yourself style post. It’s a reminder and that is so important for everyone to hear. Even if you don’t think it, you are important and you need a dose of positivity every so often.

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  • Tiffany over on Love Always Tiffany
  • Her Twitter Page is: Love Always Tiff
  • MH Post – I Am More Than Sad
    • This post is short but sweet and to the point. Highlighting the difference between Sadness and Depression, and being ok with admitting the problem, seeking help and looking to get better. Tiff as always you are a gem!

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  • Hollie over on Life with my Trio
  • Her Twitter Page is: Hollie Cagney
  • MH Post – It’s Ok Not To Be Ok
    • Hollies post is one of the most relatable, real posts I’ve ever read. The idea of trying to portray a normal persona to save face but really on the inside being torn and broken. This reminds of me of the below line from Scrubs.


Honourable Mentions

As I said above I was overwhelmed by comments and people wanting to share stories, articles and posts in the name of MH. I’d have loved to have done the above for all of them but then this post would have gone on for days. So the ones I’ve missed but still deserve some recognition are as followed:

Sophie – TwitterBlog
Roberta – TwitterBook
Chloe – TwitterBlog
Joan – TwitterBlog
Nell – TwitterBlog
Jordyn – TwitterBlog
Marlena – TwitterBlog
Kat – TwitterBlog
Natasha – TwitterBlog
Nikki – TwitterBlog
Meditative Owl (Can’t find her name, sorry) – TwitterBlog
Koral – TwitterBlog
Stephen – TwitterBlog
Nykole – TwitterBlog
Jackie – TwitterBlog
Anneka – TwitterBlog
Maureen – TwitterBlog
Jade Marie – Twitter Blog
Catey – Twitter Blog
Sarah – Twitter Blog
Elizabeth – Twitter Blog
Christina – Twitter Blog

 

Mental Health Awareness Week

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This is a massive challenge now. It’s Wednesday 8th and I’ve decided to do my tiny bit to help raise awareness for Mental Health. Deciding to generate 5 posts, one for each weekday of next week – Mental Health Awareness Week.

I am not a Mental Health blogger, to my knowledge I am not a suffer of a diagnosed Mental Illness. There are so many people that are one or both of these things and within that group, some of them have found their voice and are amazing influencers and advocates for Mental Health. But there are others out there that has not found that voice, that struggle to open up and come to terms with things. These are the people I am doing this for. The scarred, the lost for words and the vulnerable. The people who want to scream from the rooftops but are so broken, shy and worried to do so that they sit in silence and let the world eat them up.

No more! Not today! Not ever!


The official theme of this week is Body Image – This is what the Mental Health Organisation have said about this topic:

“Body image issues can affect all of us at any age. During the week we will be publishing new research, considering some of the reasons why our body image can impact the way that we feel, campaigning for change and publishing practical tools.”

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But I don’t want that to stop us, I don’t want you to read this and think – my concern isn’t with Body Image, this isn’t relevant. I promise you everything is relevant. No matter what you are going through. Sit tight, buckle up and get ready for a week of informative, fun and relief. If I can change one persons life for the better than I will be proud. But I am going to need your help to achieve this.

Also check out the Mental Health Foundation website for tips, guides and articles about MH and what they are hoping to achieve this week.

All support, comments and love will be welcomed.

First steps into Mental Health blogging – I am a rookie in a Pro’s game. But I want to help. Wish me luck.