Mystery Blogger Award

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Rules:

1: Put the award logo/image on your blog

2: List the rules

3: Thank whomever nominated you and provide a link as well

4: Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well.

5: Tell your readers three things about yourself.

6: Nominate other bloggers.

7: notify the nominees by commenting on their blog.

8: ask your nominees any five questions of your choice with one weird or funny question.

9: Share a link to your best post


 

I was tagged in this post by AToughTimeToBeHonest and I for one am grateful for the tag – I love these posts and I think they are amazing ways to learn something about everyone.

And literally a day after being tagged in this, Lana and Ryan from The Cole Camp Fire tagged me too so now I am thanking them and answering more questions set upon me.

Both blogs are amazing and ran by supportive people who has so much passion that they are a credit to the blogging community and their work – go follow, support and share.

The Award strikes again and I was also tagged in LizzumsLivesLife which if you don’t follow you should, she is amazing!

I wont lie I just copied this line from the tagged post because I wouldn’t know where to find the creator – But here we go the creator of the Mystery Blogger Award is Okoto Enigma check out her lifestyle and travel blog here.


Now a chance to shine – three things you might not know about me.

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  1. When I was younger, say 7 or 8 I got lost in Matalan, I was too busy running around and darting through the racks that I lost my family. On reflection it was very Blair
    Witch. Just manically running in circles.
  2. I am a sucker for fancy dress – I LOVE IT. I don’t go half hearted. It’s all or nothing. Over time I have donned many faces (maybe I should right a post about it) but this is by far one of my favourite costumes.
  3.  And the final thing about me – as much as I find the wildlife and scenery beautiful, I am scared of the Ocean, the depths and what lurks down there. I would much prefer to be stuck in Space than at the bottom of the Ocean. Have you seen some of the critters that live down there?

 

Now looking at the rules I think there is something missing, or I have made a mistake. But it’s time to continue. . . or make it up as I go along. Going forward I want people to do the three facts and then answer the set questions.


The Questions

From AToughTimeToBeHonest

  1. Where do you see yourself in 10 years. – Family Man. Married with a Child in a nice house with a dog – I can’t wait for the dog!
  2. Favourite drink, alcoholic or not? – Can’t beat a lovely Cuppa Tea or a Gin 😉
  3. Should Pluto be recognised as a planet? – Probably not, he’s a dog! Real answer, Yes I do. My GF’s sister was learning the planets the other week and it occurred to me they have it easier now as when I was learning their was one more. Bring it back!
  4. Android or Apple? – Android for Phone, Apple for Computer. 
  5. Post the funniest photo you can of yourself which reminds you of a time you had fun. – Get a load of this! (Pete, Me, Mole & Tom) This was taken at Mole’s Stag do that his now Step Son and my best friend Tom organised. It was such a messy night but so many good memories.263472_195546863830830_3545073_n

The Questions

From The Cole Camp Fire

  1. Do you have pets? Tell me about your pets. – We have a cat at our house which is my GF’s sister but when she moved out she couldn’t take the cat. I am not a fan of the cat! The Cat is the bane of my home life. I can’t wait to move into a house and get a dog. I don’t like Cat’s think they are superior and think they deserve everything – where a dog is loyal and respectful.
  2. If you’re the star of a reality show, what would it be about? – I would say it would be about my life – maybe a video form of my blog. Showcasing me growing up dealing with adult life, planning the next steps and becoming a success.
  3. What is the book you are currently reading? – I am not a big reader, which I will admit I don’t like and wish I could read more. Currently I am reading David Jason’s Only Fools and Stories.
  4. Share with me something we don’t know about you? – Oh golly I am constantly being asked this now days I don’t know what you do and don’t know. Ok I once broke my arm playing basketball, clean snap and had to don a sexy orange cast while it healed.
  5. Michael Jordan or Lebron James? – Being a brit I am not big on Basketball and so would have to pick Michael Jordan on his merit for the Space Jam Movie.

The Questions

From LizzumsLivesLife 

  1. Have you ever broken a bone? – Yes, my arm while playing Basketball in High School
  2. When was the last time you went on a stay-cation/overnight trip? – Well I just got back off a real holiday so . . . but last overnight trip was probably visiting my dad a few weeks back – or if that doesn’t count. We went to London last year for a show and weekend away which was cute.
  3. What did you want to grow up to become when you were a child? – A had several jobs on the list when I was young; An Artist, Chef, Fireman.
  4. What is your current music obsession? – George Ezra is my jam at the moment, I am loving his new album and in particular ‘Paradise’
  5. Do you generally prefer the book or it’s movie adaption? – As a film geek I much prefer the films, but then I will go back and read the book. The occasions I have thought. Book wins in recent years is Jo Nesbo’s – The Snowman. I couldn’t put the book down and then the film came out I was so excited . . . only to be let down but a pile of steamy rubbish.

 


Nominations!

This is a bit I don’t like about these, because one I have to pick people and I want to tag you all and I also need to remember who I am tagging so I can tweet it out. But here we go.

  1. Megs – Blog: Respirare – Twitter: @RespirareXO
  2. Kimi –  Blog: LoveMamaMop – Twitter: @Lovemamamop
  3. Leann – Blog: ArthritisFighter – Twitter: @LeannKelly27
  4. Laura – Blog: DirectlyLaura – Twitter: @DirectlyLaura
  5. Janita – Blog: TylerBelle – Twitter: @TylerBelle2
  6. Sarah – Blog: UnexploredBoundaries – Twitter: @SarahDanne
  7. Matt – Blog: MattViews – Twitter: @MattViews1
  8. Laura – Blog: LauraJacquesAINH – Twitter: @Laura_AIMH
  9. Paul – Blog: BrutalHonestyBlogger – Twitter: @PaulMcG1994
  10. Bryony – Blog: BryonyPerfectlyImperfect – Twitter: @BryonyAshaw

Now it is my turn to ask the questions . . . are you all ready? Good Luck!

The Questions.

  1. If you could introduce a new law into the world what would it be?
  2. If you could have any job in the world what would you do?
  3. What is your favourite mythical creature or monster?
  4. With no warning the world turns into a Wasteland and the three items in front of you will help you survive – what are they and how do you fancy your chances?
  5. What do you fear most?

 


Let me take this chance to thank you all so much, for your constant support and for reading and even enjoying my ramblings on here and on Twitter – you all make this so worth it, so welcoming and so so supportive. It’s one of the best communities I have ever known let along been a part of.

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Now go, take this post, share it, comment and just enjoy it. It’s such a pleasure and you guys make it all worth it.

Peace! x

 

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Lost in Life.

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I’m not sure where this post is going or what its even called.

(I assume the title above is fitting. But as I write this I have nothing planned)

Over the past day or so ive realised something about my self and my personality. Which is always dangerous to self criticise and evaluate yourself but I went there – and what I found made sense. It made me think about every past exploit and choice I’ve made.

My findings – I have no drive.

Wait what does that even mean. Now you are wondering. Where does he park his car? Or not. Sorry for the dad joke.

I mean Drive / Dedication / Motivation. So many times I have had an idea. Something new to look into. Usually job related. I do research and plans and then never go anywhere with it because I never follow it through.

The biggest one in my past is film making. I love it so much. I wanted to set up a production company and go freelance. All planned. Named. Cards printed. But just getting that umph to start it never appeared. Another example was setting up an etsy shop to sell Groomsmen gift boxes. Working out the costs and the realistic demand for it. But again after all that work put in – I did nothing with it.

Same again when it comes to writing scripts and even a children’s story book. I begin full of life and positivity and then let it fizzle out when it comes to commitment.

I think it boils down to a fear of the unknown. Leaving my stable reliable old job to take that plunge and go it alone. Risk that stability and just go for it. Scary right.

My latest idea in the planning stages (which will remain a secret for the moment) is a similar thing. I don’t think it will take off or amount to anything.

I’m lost. Left wondering the world unsure as to what I want to do when I grow up. Does anyone else get this? A sense of being lost and unsure.

I think of recently the only thing I have kept going is this blog and I’m still in the baby steps of this. Ideally I would love to get to a point where I can make this self-sufficient and make this my work and job.

One day hey.

Sorry for the rant / over sharing. But you know what they say. I’ll work it all out one day and it will be good.

Until then. Lets just smile and get on with it.

Peace ✌

Dealing with Time.

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TimeSomething I have noticed as I have gotten older and become a “Responsible Member of Society” is that I have no time for anything and this is something I really struggle with; managing my time and finding a harmonious level where everything can work as one.

When I was younger, I would go to work, come home and do what I like – spend hours playing Playstation or going out. But now days in this adult life that luxury is long gone.

I get home now after working 7.30am – 5pm (five days a week) to a list of chores, taking the washing down and putting it away, putting a new load on, cleaning up from the night before and occasionally running the hoover round the flat before taking the bins out and then finally sitting down. But by that time I need to look at cooking some tea – so I go off and do that. Once more getting a chance to sit down eat and catch up with the GF.

The standard generic “How was your day?” and “Oh what happened with blah blah” conversations pop up and then before we know it’s getting time to think about having a shower and going to bed.

Where does the time go?

It is the same for me at the weekend, by the time the boring adult life stuff is done I am left tired and out of time to start something I want to do.

Obviously this isn’t always the case and some nights or weekends I have less “Chores” to do but still after working the 9 half hours I spend at work I am just so tired, like actually exhausted. So there are nights and times (like tonight. . . shhh don’t tell the GF) that I have a few couple of hours where I plan to cook a pizza, blog and play Playstation.

When it comes to time management for out of work activities – mainly blogging and media work, I just struggle so much to find the drive. My office job is so long that it makes coming home feel amazing but then I only have a couple of hours before I have to go to sleep or I know I will be ruined the next morning trying to wake up at the crack of dawn.

In a perfect world I would love to not have the office job. To be a self employed media mogul – if that was the case I 100% know I would schedule my time so much better. I would get up at a good time, unlike the ungodly hour I currently have to claw my way out of bed. Have a nice healthy breakfast, probably start going back to the gym for an hour or so, then home to do some writing, marketing and boosting of this lovely blog. Lunch, a few odd chores, then back to “WORK” – promoting media work, looking for clients and maybe the occasion Youtube video of a cat wearing a top hat – or something trivial. But you know what I mean – I am constricted to this lifestyle I have, trying to fit everything around the huge chunk of time I spend at the office a week.

I guess if I can get over this hump and once things pick up and start looking up maybe I can get to that goal one day – I don’t see it coming for some time as you know bills have to be paid. But like Journey said – Don’t Stop Believing.

WOW was that a little bit cheesy, oops. Sorry!

If anyone has any tips or tricks on how to help me with my time management I would love to hear from you, to try a new routine and work on something, anything, to improve and spread my capabilities across all platforms.

This is part the reason why I LOVE the idea of being a stay at home dad – I know that sounds crazy, trading a 9 1/2 hour day at work for a lifetime commitment of a child. But I think I would be able to handle that a lot better than I do currently. You know – Feed Baby, Take Baby for a walk, Blog while baby naps, feed GF and Baby – Sleep Repeat.

Yes I know that is WAY to simple an outlook on stay at homes parenting, I admire and fully respect what you do and will do the same when the time comes – but I can dream.

So until that day, or until I win the lottery, this is my life. I have to make of it what I can.

Wish me luck!

 

 

 

 

 

Blogger Recognition Award

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Happy Friday Boys and Girls. We’ve made it – the weekend is nearly here. I am going out tomorrow night for the first time since Christmas to celebrate my friends “Baby Daddy Shower” because why can’t men celebrate the joyous occasion as well.

I have to thank Paolo for nominating me – check his blog out HERE, his work and content is amazingly put together, such a good read and also just really nice guy who is mega supportive.


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THE BLOGGER RECOGNITION AWARD

So this award is basically an award made by bloggers for bloggers.  These awards are not so much awards in the traditional sense but rather a fun way to show other bloggers support and appreciation.  It’s also a nice way to get to know a bit more about some of the bloggers out there.  That being said here are the rules for this award:

  1. You have to write a blog post thanking the person that nominated you.
  2. Explain your story on how and why you started blogging.
  3. Share two general pieces of advice to other bloggers.
  4. Nominate fifteen other bloggers and let them know you’ve nominated them too.

Let’s get right to it then.


Why Am I Here!

The reason I got into blogging was, I wanted to make a parenting fatherhood blog, a place to document and writing about the trails of being a Daddy! But as we are currently not on the children conversation level that is a long way off – but I still wanted to start a blog. So I decided to change it from Parenthood to Adulthood – showcasing my life becoming an adult, dealing with bills and banks and buying new bedding.

Which is where we are now! Hello.


Blogging Advice

  1. Don’t be afraid to laugh or potentially be laughed at – this isn’t as mean as it might sound. I’m at a point in my life where I just generally don’t care what people think about things I say or do. When I was younger I used to constantly rack my mind with alternate situations where – “If I do this, those people will laugh” scenarios and that can be damaging to a personality and someone’s confidence I think. So I got out of that habit, but I still see it a lot today – people who are worried about what other people will think about them. This isn’t a good thing – which leads to my advice. Whatever you do, do it for the right reasons that you believe in. Don’t worry about what someone will say – there is 100’s of 1000’s of people in this world, at least one person will disagree or find a way to take offense and then will try to bring you down. Ignore that. Stay smiling. Do it for you! Not for them.

  2. Tweet till you can’t tweet no more – I have found Twitter to be the best platform to promote  my blog and to meet new friends and other bloggers. Interact with people, even if it starts as a little “Well Done” or “I do that too :)” it’s a start and gives you an in to start making friends with and contacts. These people will become your online community, friends and family. They are the best bunch of misfits, randomers and beautiful supportive people you could ever find. Trust me!

 

Now it’s time for the Nominations: The tough part because I have to find their addresses for each for each blog. . . . but that’s worth it. Check all of these out and I can’t wait to read your replies.

  1. Kerry – Kerrylifeandloves.com
  2. Alex – Alexandrarees.blog
  3. Anthony – DadaAndMonkey.co.uk
  4. Dave – TheYorkshireDad.com
  5. Milli – Milliberman.com
  6. Alex – YoungMummaLooks
  7. MJ – Mjw.wales
  8. Kelly – TheYorkshireFitGal.wordpress.com
  9. Jess – JessEatsAndTravels.com
  10. Abi – RamblingsOfABlonde.co.uk
  11. Lauren – BournemouthGirl.wordpress.com
  12. Jacob – Stylerblogs.weebly.com
  13. Claire – ThatMummaRocks.com
  14. Steph –DiaryofaBoringSoberBitch.com
  15. David – DadVWorld.com

My Name, Your Name, Who’s Name?

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In the modern world we live in getting married or taking other people’s names is becoming more complex and different.

Traditionally it would have been the wife who takes the husband’s surname as they join into his family. But as time has moved forward there are more cases now days where either; No name change is taken, the wife’s name is taken, a double barrel name appears, a hybrid of both names comes out or the even newer approach happens – a whole new name is produced.

The reason this post came about is that a few of us got chatting about it at work. Who would take whose name. It’s also a conversation me and the GF have quite a lot. So I just wanted to know what everyone thought about this subject – I took it to twitter and got some very interesting points back.

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Overall everyone said as long as the marriage works than it doesn’t matter what the surname is. Which lead into the topic of regardless of surname it’s the children involved that matter most.

Which made me think about the flip side of this topic. When families break down and it becomes a mixing pot of surnames all under one banner – as long as everyone involved is happy and wanting to be there it shouldn’t matter what you are called.


But more about taking which name, I think in this modern age that the traditional sense of taking the Husbands name because he was the patriarch and the head of the family is long gone. What with equal rights and even the legalisation of homosexual marriages coming into an effect the rules of the game has changed.

I know people who got married but still have their original family names because they are both lawyers and I understand that. They have made a name for themselves as this person and to take another name could lose worth in their career as their identity has changed.

Sadly though I have seen equality turn people into stubborn unreasonable people, I know a person who flat-out hands down will not consider or entertain the fact of changing their name. Which as much as I believe if you don’t want to that is ok, I think you have to be open enough to have a conversation about it, rather than stubbornly not respecting the partner enough to even have a conversation.


I took my husband’s name. I don’t know, personally my own surname wasn’t that important to me. It’s a name lol. I wanted to have to same name as my husband, it feels like a symbol of unity I guess. – @SimplyySplendid (Twitter)


Personally I wouldn’t want to take my GF’s surname. Not because I am not open to the option. But because I think mine is better. Which sounds arrogant I know. But this is also why I like the idea of merging names or even creating a whole new name all together. To make something more personal and fair – but on the flip side of that I also think I should keep my name as I am the last and only Male in my family and if I want that name to continue I need to be the one to carry it on.


Personally I’d take my future husbands surname bc I’m a bit of a traditionalist when it comes to it, but I don’t think it really matters. – @AllLadyA (Twitter)


It was pointed out to me that something else to be taken into consideration is all the paperwork you will have to change and update – Passport, Driving Licence, Bills, Work Profile. It’s a costly and time-consuming task regardless of which name you end up with and that I can see as a reason not to change the name.

It wouldn’t be impossible to get a hyphenated name now, but it’s a bit of a chore changing it with everything. And also now I’ve since had a child, I wouldn’t like not having the same name as him… – @Jakijellz (Twitter)

Overall there is not a right or wrong answer to this situation we will ultimately put ourselves into and from the feedback and responses I have received about this topic the answers are different but overall the main thing that shines through is people’s love for their family and children – it doesn’t matter who has what name, it’s the idea of the happy family that wins.

I also want to thank everyone for the feedback and responses I received while writing this.

Once again you guys are awesome and as for me – I think it’s something me and GF will have to discuss nearer the time . . . which isn’t anytime soon (just so we are all clear)

Peace!

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My Throwback Playlist

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Over the weekend my GF and I got into a really strange but cool conversation about music – more importantly about late 90’s early 00’s punk rock.

The music I grew up on.

The reason this conversation was really fun for me was because her music taste is a bit left field for my general liking: preferring the likes of Little Mix and Rihanna. But it turns out through a few friends she had a patch of real music in her life.

Let me also say the views in this post are my own – using the term “Real Music” refers to something with instruments. I am not a fan of Auto tuned hip hop style stuff. Just how it is. The point of the post isn’t to slate different genres as I am fully aware everyone has their own taste and would not want to take that away from anyone.

The point of this post is to compile a playlist of songs that I grew with jamming too and lost gems that I haven’t heard in ages.

Get your best Air Guitar out the cupboard and get ready to ROCK!

My throwback feel good playlist is as followed. . .

  1. The Anthem – Good Charlotte: The GF loves this tune and will randomly start singing “Cause I don’t ever wanna, I don’t ever wanna”
  2. Dance Dance – Fall Out Boy: This song makes the cut because it’s the easiest title. Their whole “From Under the Cork Tree” album is awesome but all their songs have silly long names.
  3. Fat Lip – SUM41: What a great get psyched start to a song, that riff and then that fast paced burst of lyrics about Storming through a party.
  4. Misery Business – Paramore: This was a tune and half. I remember it taking my final year of school by storm and turns out one of the GF’s favourites too. Plus how hot is Hayley Williams 😘
  5. The Middle – Jimmy Eat World: Could be more something to do with the music video, but still a sweet song to jam too.
  6. Pretty Fly for a White Guy – The Offspring: Again they had a few I thought about throwing on here but there is something about this one that reminds me of an old friend who was pretty fly but never as cool as he thought.
  7. Famous Last Words – My Chemical Romance: I love this song because of how dramatic is it and turns out she loves it because she found out I can drum it. I like the little trivia about the Craig Simons the Drummer suffering from a slight burn and discomfort during the music video as a result of the massive fire behind him. Check out the end of the video HERE
  8. No One Knows – Queens of the Stone Age: Throw a great drum beat, a wild bunch of lyrics and a strange music video together and what do you get – this absolute beaut.
  9. Bring me to Life – Evanescence: A slight dip into the dark gothic area as we all did back in the day. It’s not a heavy song, but it is a great mix of soft also orchestra like music mixed with the upbeat rock of the band. What a tune.
  10. Holiday – Green Day: My biggest love, I couldn’t write a list like this and not include them. Their energy and talent is infectious and their music amazing! The GF got me tickets to see them at Barclaycard British Summer Time last summer which was awesome & she loved it as well.

I hope you enjoy this list, it’s been a real throwback listening to these and others again – strange how I can still remember the tunes and lyrics to them. If you have never heard of some of these tracks before go and check them out. Or strangly just out on the American Pie 2 soundtrack. That covers most bases.

These songs were my teenage youth – long summers with nothing to do, hanging out at skate parks, throwing house parties and rocking out in band practise.

Good times!

GREAT TIMES!

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